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Coping With Depression – A Story

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I had folks coming to me, of course, who wanted to be helpful, and sadly, many of them weren’t. These were the people who would say, ‘Gosh, Parker, why are you sitting in here being depressed? It’s a beautiful day outside. Go, you know, feel the sunshine and smell the flowers.’ And that, of course, leaves a depressed person even more depressed, because while you know intellectually that it’s sunny out and that the flowers are lovely and fragrant, you can’t really feel any of that in your body, which is dead in a sensory way.

There was this one friend who came to me, after asking permission to do so, every afternoon about four o’clock, sat me down in a chair in the living room, took off my shoes and socks and massaged my feet. He hardly ever said anything. He was a Quaker elder. Somehow, he found the one place in my body, namely the soles of my feet, where I could experience some sort of connection to another human being. And the act of massaging just, you know, in a way that I really don’t have words for, kept me connected with the human race.

And it became for me a metaphor of the kind of community we need to extend to people who are suffering in this way, neither invasive of the mystery nor evasive of the suffering but is willing to hold people in a space, a sacred space of relationship, where somehow this person who is on the dark side of the moon can get a little confidence that they can come around to the other side.

Parker Palmer

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Written by MattAndJojang

November 10, 2010 at 8:56 am

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  1. […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by A. Lorraine Allen, Leo Alain. Leo Alain said: Coping With Depression – A Story « MattAndJojang's Blog http://bit.ly/az3vJ4 […]

  2. I’m glad i chanced upon this blog. I will share something about my own thoughts about this, in my own site. Thank you!

    anne

    November 25, 2010 at 3:48 pm

  3. Thank you, Anne for visiting our blog. We’re glad that you were inspired by this story.

    Have a great day!

    mattandjojang

    November 26, 2010 at 10:17 am


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