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When Doctrine Isn’t Enough: A Former Nun Awakens to the Responsibility of Her Own Spirituality

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At an early age, I learned that God was a being who dwelled in a place far from where I ever stood. I learned to commune with the transcendent God of the above, not the immanent divine within. But over the years, as I let go of childish thinking and took responsibility for my spiritual life, my perception of God changed dramatically. I am guided now not so much by teachings that were handed down to me, but by ideas that have risen up from within — a shift that began 30 years ago when I was a young postulant nun in a religious order taking my first theology class.

The priest looked dismayed. “That’s it?” he asked.

“Yes, Father.”

“Sit down,” he barked, looking around for the next hand.

Up it went, and the next brave soul stood up saying, “In God there are three divine persons, really distinct, and equal in all things — the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost.”

I nodded again, and the priest frowned. “Is that the best you can do?”

“Yes, Father.”

Next,” he yelled, as she took her seat, looking around in wonder.

By now, we’re all confused, but one more raised her hand.

“God can do all things, and nothing is hard or impossible to Him.”

“Sit down,” he said.

He rolled his eyes, crossed his arms, and surveyed the whole group of us with a kind of silent disdain. By now, I’m feeling anxious and blood is rushing up my neck. I feel hot and sweaty. My first anxiety attack.

“How could he do this?” It seemed so mean. He asked for our ideas about God and yet, when we said them, it felt like he took a sledge hammer and smashed our beliefs into a thousand pieces. A tear rolled down my cheek.

It was a moment of devastating loss, incomprehensible sadness. I felt as if everything I believed in, everything on which I had based my life, was now being challenged. We sat there, 30 of us, for what seemed an eternity, reckoning with the obliteration of God as we had known Him. What if everything we believed wasn’t true? Did Father Grabys know something we didn’t know?

Finally the priest spoke. “You should be ashamed for having nothing more than catechism answers to this question. Are you just a bunch of parrots, repeating everything you’ve been taught? Hasn’t anyone here gone beyond the Baltimore Catechism in your thinking?”

The air was thick with silence. Hands were folded, eyes cast down. Tears cascaded down my face. I prayed he wouldn’t call on me.

“You must come to know what is true about God from your own experience,” said the priest. “If you are to be a nun worth your salt, you have to arrive at a faith that is deeper than your learning, one that is rooted in your ultimate concerns and rises up from the nature of who you are.”

I looked up at him, wondering how in the world to build a faith from my human nature. Wasn’t faith something I was born into — something I inherited from the outside?

I was a Catholic by default. They told me everything I was supposed to believe. That was the point, wasn’t it? I was just lucky to be born into the one true faith. I certainly didn’t have anything to say about it. That’s what infallible popes were for.

I raised my hand and asked him how someone could create a faith from the inside out, and why we even needed to since we knew what we needed to know from the catechism.

“What you believe, that is religion,” he said. “Who you are, what you live for — that is faith. And that is what we are here to explore, to create, and to declare — our faith and spirituality. You can let go of your beliefs for awhile as you learn how to create a faith that will see you through everything.”

I didn’t want to let go of any beliefs. They were all I had. And they were enough. I didn’t need anything more, or so I thought. As we continued on in the class, the biblical paradox that says we must lose our lives in order to find them suddenly began to make sense. Taking responsibility for our own spirituality was a painstaking process that lasted the entire semester as we worked to find and define our own commitments and ultimate concerns — a task that was supremely challenging for young women who had been taught all their lives what to think, but not how to think.

We never looked at another catechism, never recited another memorized belief, but step by step we built a new spirituality for ourselves that was deeply personal and rooted in our ultimate concerns. And every day during meditation there was something new and profoundly elegant to contemplate: myself as the creator of my own spiritual path.

~ Jan Phillips


Written by MattAndJojang

April 11, 2011 at 9:15 am

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  1. You get TEN stars from me,**********. That takes a lot of courage. I wish that every person could sit down sometime in their life and take a true spiritual inventory of their beliefs. I wish that it could be an annual event for all people. While I still believe that some people have lessons to learn in their singular religion it’s a feather in our cap when we can see more and be more. What’s in the past is worthwhile but now there is more. Thanks for the post. Keep Blogging, Keep Writing.


    April 11, 2011 at 9:38 am

  2. You’re welcome, and thank you for the encouragement.

    You’re right: “While… some people have lessons to learn in their singular religion it’s a feather in our cap when we can see more and be more.”

    Yes, it is true that spiritual groups and religious institutions can still guide us. But at the end of the day we have to take responsibility for our spirituality, find out what works for us and chart our own spiritual destiny.

    ~ Matt


    April 11, 2011 at 9:49 am

  3. Visiting family has kept me from my usual rounds, but I had to comment on this. It’s a lovely, lovely post, and so true.

    As I mentioned to someone recently, my favorite professor once said, “The Word doesn’t come to us as a proposition for debate. It arrives as an event, meant to change our lives.”

    Indeed. There was a lot of life-changing going on for these young women!


    April 12, 2011 at 6:36 am

  4. Thank you, Linda, for sharing that beautiful quote from your professor.

    Indeed a real encounter with God, and true spirituality “…arrives as an event, meant to change our lives.”

    When we begin the spiritual journey, we will know that we are on the right track if our lives are transformed. As Jesus said: “You will know them by their fruits.”

    ~ Matt


    April 12, 2011 at 5:07 pm

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