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Treat Anger with Tenderness

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Treat your anger with the utmost respect and tenderness, for it is no other than yourself. Do not suppress it—simply be aware of it. Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things, they are transformed. When you are aware that you are angry, your anger is transformed.

~ Thich Nhat Hahn


Written by MattAndJojang

October 24, 2011 at 11:31 am

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  1. And sometimes, when you treat someone else’s anger with tenderness, it can be transformed, too.

    Ahem. A short story. I just was gone for ten days. When I got home, Miss Dixie Rose, the cat, was ANGRY.
    She finally came out from under the bed, but I couldn’t touch her without getting swiped – she was willing to draw blood. And when it was time to go to bed? The bed was hers, not mine. She wouldn’t let me get near it.

    So, I slept on the sofa. People think I’m nuts, but I figured if it was that important to her, I’d let her be. I woke up in the middle of the night, and there she was, just staring at me on the sofa. I muttered some nice things to her, and went back to sleep.

    Within 24 hours she was back to normal, and the next night, I could go to bed where I belonged. There’s a lesson there that seems related, somehow – about letting people be angry, and not holding it against them once they decide not to be angry any more!


    October 25, 2011 at 10:13 am

  2. A delightful story! Thank you, Linda, for sharing…

    When people (or even cats :-)) get angry, we usually want to do something about it. It’s counter intuitive just to let them be. But usually that’s really the best thing to do. The Taoists refer to this as the wisdom of doing nothing, and this Zen poem exemplifies this attitude:

    Sitting quietly,
    doing nothing,
    spring comes,
    and the grass grows by itself.

    Easier said than done, though – it requires a lot of discipline & patience…



    October 26, 2011 at 8:43 am

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