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What Makes a Good Life: Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness

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What makes a good life? What truly makes us happy? Is it wealth? Is it fame?

The psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, director of a 75-year-old study on adult development, who has an unprecedented access on data about what makes people happy, reveals that money and popularity doesn’t enter at all in the equation.

He says that what makes us truly happy and healthy is the quality of our relationships.

If you’re interested in what matters most in life,  listen to his talk.


Written by MattAndJojang

July 13, 2016 at 6:28 pm

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  1. So true. Thanks for this Matt. Have you seen any of Matthieu Ricard’s talks. I think there are one or two on TED.


    Senan of Somerset

    July 14, 2016 at 11:25 am

  2. Glad you liked it, Senan.

    He summed it up when he said that the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships.

    Loved the talk, too.

    Yes, I’ve seen quite a few of Mathieu Ricard’s talks. Referred to as the “happiest man in the world,” he, too, has a similar position. He says, too, that it isn’t material possessions that will bring us happiness.

    For him, happiness is a a way of being that gives us the the capacity to deal with the ups and downs of life.

    In other words, it’s not “having” but “being” which will bring us happiness. To put it plainly, the way to happiness is to change our minds through meditation and to be kind to each other.

    It is sad that we put a lot of effort to a lot of things which are not really important, but forget to be kind and compassionate to each other.

    He says:

    You cannot, in the same moment of thought, wish to do something good to someone or to harm that person. Those are mutually incompatible like hot and cold water. So the more you will bring benevolence in your mind, at every of those moments there’s no space for hatred. It’s just very simple, but we don’t do that. We do exercise every morning 20 minutes to be fit. We don’t sit for 20 minutes to cultivate compassion. If we want to do so, our mind will change, our brain will change. What we are will change.

    In the end, I think both of them are saying practically the same thing.



    July 15, 2016 at 10:54 am

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